Monday, January 26, 2009

The Law of Giving

Gratefully receive gifts. Keep wealth circulating by giving and receiving care, affection, appreciation, and love.
This is a hard one for our children sometimes...and adults. This year Adrian wanted to buy each of his friends a gift for Christmas and I discouraged him! I know most of his friends are part of a one income family. I didn't want his friends or their family feeling obligated to get him a gift. I was even more afraid that he would be disappointed if he did not receive a gift in return. I was so wrong about this! I wish I had not discouraged this action.
Giving gifts is so rewarding, even to my almost 9 year old. I watched yesterday as some of his friends gave him gifts for his birthday. They were so excited to give him something they knew he would like. He did enjoy the gifts, but I saw he had a hard time expressing it. Yet he played with his new toys all the way home and as soon as he got home, he hammered in his new basketball ring and then ran outside to toss his new Nerf ball. I only wish his friends saw that.
Gifts are filled with so much care and love. I'll never make that mistake again.


TheOrganicSister said...

Aw, I'm glad he enjoyed them. Zeb loves to give gifts too. He actually took a lot of his Xmas gifts and earmarked them for certain friends, thinking they'd like them (A's gifts yesterday included). Here I am always thinking he's wanting when he's actually giving more than I usually see.

I worry about him epxecting things in return and have talked to him about obligations and expectations (and not having any) but I guess I can't do much but allow him to experience and learn from those times too.

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